Shidduch Crisis

I have a question. I constantly hear people bleating about the shidduch crisis. But is a crisis REALLY happening?

Maybe people are getting married later because more people are going to college, or doing things that prevent them from dating so early. Or maybe it's ok that people aren't getting married at 19 or 20. Let them have a life before committing themselves to marriage!

Are we calling this a crisis because people aren't married at 25? 30? 35?

I think the entire crisis is that people are calling this a crisis at all. Why scare people and tell them that since they aren't married at a certain age, their chances at ever getting married are slim? We are scaring people unecessarily, and that's the main problem! We shouldn't be preaching in seminary that your focal goal when you leave the sem gate is to aquire a hubby. We should insist on secondary education and aquiring a good job. Yes, look for a husband during that time, but don't make it your primary goal. If you're life is rich in other ways, then you won't be upset constantly when your search doesn't end immediately.

My friends that are the happiest are ones that have jobs and an active social life without dating being their focal extracaricular activity. Yes, they date, but they realize that their life can be full in other ways. Of course they understand the importance of finding a husband, and they do their part, but they realize that they need to be happy. They don't want to turn into bitter women that only date and complain about how unlucky they are.

(By the way guys, this goes for you too)